How Worship is Not a Lifestyle

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Perhaps enough time has passed now that I can say this without being labeled a heretic:

“Not everything we do is worship.”

There… I said it.

Over the past 20 years, I would say the idea of worship-as-a-lifestyle has become a fundamental assumption in the American evangelical church. In recent years I’ve heard the phrase less often, but my feeling is that’s because church leaders feel that the point has been made.

A decade and a half ago it seemed any discussion on worship referenced this idea. When Rick Warren’s best selling book, The Purpose Driven Life, came out in 2002, “worship is a lifestyle” was the punchline of his chapter on worship. Referencing Benedictine monk, Brother Lawrence, Warren helped cement the idea in the minds of American churchgoers.

In 2019 the idea is alive and well in evangelicalism. Here’s a sampling of results from a quick Google search:

“Worship isn’t simply an event or a place—it’s an orientation. It’s a way of life. It’s the result of our decision to exalt God above everything else.” (Tony Evans)

“Worship is so much more than the songs that we sing on Sunday morning. It is the life that we live the rest of the week.” (Daughterbydesign.wordpress.)

“Worship isn’t an event to attend and watch. It’s a lifestyle to be lived.” (unknown)

“I think worship is a lifestyle, first of all.” (Michael W. Smith)

“if the vital essence of that inner experience we call worship is a being satisfied in God or a cherishing Christ as gain above all things, this accounts for why Romans 12:1-2 portrays all of life as worship.” (John Piper, 1997)

“But worship is more than just an allotted time to sing songs of praise. We have been called to a lifestyle: living in a way that glorifies our heavenly Father, worshipping Him at all times and in many ways. Through this life of worship, God is welcome in all aspects of our lives.” (2017, YWAM Perth)

Harold Best, author and Dean of Wheaton College Conservatory of Music, says it as bluntly as anyone:

“There is no one in this world who is not, at this moment, at worship in one way or another, consciously or unconsciously, formally or informally, passively or passionately…for, you see, the desire to worship was created in us, not as an add-on, but as an intrinsic part of our very nature” (Harold M. Best, When is Worship Worship?).

I Love these people
Before going further, I want to state a couple of things. I hate divisive speech. I love Rick Warren, John Piper, YWAM, Michael W. Smith’s worship albums in particular, and probably all the other people quoted above. Furthermore, I love the impulse that has moved them to make these statements. I fully agree with the point they are making.

Their point is this: As followers of Jesus, our whole heart and all of our lives should be devoted to God. For us there should be no division between sacred and secular; between Sunday morning and the rest of the week. They are talking about “abiding in Christ” and living full out for Him. I get it, and I fully agree. These are my people.

They are simply using the wrong word to make the point.

Nitpicky much?
In the Bible, the word “worship” actually means something specific. What if, in our zeal to inspire each other to fully devote our whole lives to God, we inadvertently discourage the worship He truly deserves? This is what I think is happening. This is not simply me being picky about semantics.

Test me on this. I contend that the Bible sets forth the meaning of worship in this way:

Worship is intentional, physical expression of one’s love for God.

We may feel many things toward God. Those things may be good things, but they are not necessarily worship; they are something else. We may petition God, we may lament, we may feel grateful, we may cry out for help, we may express joy, we may express anger, fear, doubt, or frustration toward God.

These things are all part of being relationally connected with God, but worship specifically expresses our awe and love for God through physical expression. It is something we do for, and intentionally toward, God, because He is worthy. Ideally, we do not worship “to get something out of it,” or “because it is good for us,” or “to get ourselves into a right frame of mind.” Worshipping God may indeed (or may not) do all of those things for us, but that is not the point. We are not the object in worship.

The physical expression piece
Why am I harping on physical expression? Because that is how the Bible describes worship. Because we are physical, as well as spiritual, beings. It is true that God has granted us spiritual rebirth but we are not, and never will be, disembodied spirits.

But can’t I worship by thinking worshipful thoughts toward God? Can’t I “bow down in my heart”? Isn’t that still a form of worship? *

I’m open to correction here, but if we want to take our instruction from the Bible, I just don’t see that idea in there. Thinking worshipful thoughts toward God leads to acts of worship, but it is the physical expression of the inward heart that is the act of worship. The thought or feeling is the beginning, but the physical act completes our worship.

Therefore you will see throughout the Judeo-Christian scriptures a multitude of physical expressions of worship directed toward God: singing, playing musical instruments, bowing, kneeling, lifting hands, falling down before, shouting, and dancing.

I must hasten to add here that the physical act alone amounts to nothing if the heart is not behind it. Worship is an expression of love; a demonstration of one’s heart.

Ask yourself, “Why resist employing your physical body in worship?”

*(Interesting to note: the only time I see the phrase “heart bowed down” in the Bible is when someone is in a state of grieving. It does not seem to be a phrase pertaining to worship).

Why Does This Matter?
This probably only matters to those who desire to be worshippers of God.

Years ago at a worship conference, I heard a speaker say that when he is eating Doritos after the service in the church foyer, he is worshipping God just as much as when he is singing on stage.

I disagree.

I would also take issue with Harold Best when he says:

I wish there were a word in English which would at once mean both living and worshipping in an indivisible union, because that’s what God originally intended. This was how Jesus lived – thirty three years as a living sacrifice – no moment spent not worshipping…Thus it is quite easy to see how Adam and Eve were continually at worship in whatever they did – not once in seven days – but continuously: moment by moment, action by action, breath after breath…” (ibid).

But the scriptures don’t quite say this. Read it for yourself. There is no clear indication that Adam and Eve worshipped God at all. Indeed, this may have been part of what led to the fall of man – perhaps they regarded God too lightly, or took their relationship with Him for granted. I would argue that is apparently what happened.

I contend that these writers are conflating “worship” and “communion with God.”

We can indeed live moment by moment in communion – in relational unity – with God because of the salvific work of Jesus, I agree! But what if worship is actually something else? If we think we’re worshipping when we’re mowing the lawn, or changing the baby’s diaper, or eating Doritos while chatting in the church foyer, we may never see the need to set apart time for focused, intimate worship of God.

This would be the equivalent of a marriage wherein the lovers never actually set aside intimate time to express their love for one another. After all, they live moment by moment in a spousal relationship and in the knowledge that they love each other, right? So why set aside focused time to physically express their love?

In this sense worship is analogous to romance. Romance is not incidental or accidental. It involves 1) set apart time, 2) focused thought and attention, and 3) making one’s heart known through some physical expression.

The same can be said of worship.

We’re very busy. Could our belief that “everything we do is worship” conveniently be keeping us from actual worship?

In a similar vein, my pastor, Pat Sokoll, recently referred to his earthly father in a way that made this point beautifully. He observed that men in his father’s generation generally thought in terms of expressing their love for their families by being good providers; by faithfully working hard to serve their families. In their minds, their lifestyles showed their love for their families. (And they were right in thinking so). Yet many of these same men failed to express their love to their children by saying “I love you,” or by hugging them, or by kissing them, or by stopping work long enough to focus attention on their families.

Yes, serving is a crucial aspect of caring for one’s family, but it is not an excuse for neglecting to express intimate love interpersonally. It is the same with our relationship with God.

A Brief Word Study
The original languages reiterate these two aspects of love. Throughout the Old Testament scriptures, two words are most frequently paired together when describing worship: “bow down” and “serve.”

Example: “You shall not bow down or serve them” (Ex 20:5).

This is the first of the 10 commandments; to have no other gods before YHWH. Over and over we see these words paired together to describe worship, either of YHWH Himself, or of false gods. These are the two sides of the worship coin.

The Hebrew word translated “bow down” (shachah) is often translated “worship.” In the New Testament, its Greek equivalent (proskuneo) literally means, “to kiss toward.” So both the Hebrew and Greek words literally describe physical expressions of adoration. Jesus uses “proskuneo” during His discourse with the Samaritan woman when he says the Father seeks worshipers who will worship Him in spirit and truth.

It is this word, proskuneo, that we usually have in mind when we speak of worship, worship music, worship services, and corporate worship.

By contrast, the Hebrew word translated “serve”, (abad), and its Greek equivalent, (latreuo), refer to service, including priestly temple service such as the ceremonial killing of animals. In Hebrews chapters 9 and 10, the descriptions of old covenant, priestly temple service (translated “worship”) use the word latreuo.

The verse most universally used to support the worship-as-a-lifestyle idea is Romans 12:1: “Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship(NAS).

Ironically, the word used here is not “proskuneo,” the word usually translated as “worship.” The word used is the word for service: “latreuo.” Paul is saying our temple service is no longer the sacrificing of animals, but is now the presenting of our whole selves to God. Our evangelical friends would be more correct to teach “service-as-a-lifestyle,” since that’s what Paul is urging here.

Arguably, (proskuneo) worship cannot be a lifestyle because it is by definition set apart from the daily stuff of life. Thus biblical worship encompasses both the daily grind, and also holy, undistracted intimacy; the quotidian and the transcendent.

It is not uncommon in modern church services to see congregants not actively participating in worship. Many churches encourage a “casual atmosphere” where people can sip a cup of coffee while they sit back and passively listen to the worship music. Is this inspirational? It certainly can be. Is it worship? I don’t think so.

Is this a legalistic approach to worship? To suggest that (proskuneo) worship cannot simply be thinking reverent thoughts toward God?

Well, can you say you’ve taken communion if you think about the body and blood of Jesus shed for us, but never actually partake of the physical elements?
Can you say you’ve been baptized if you consider yourself dead to your old way of living, but never actually go under the physical water?
Can you say you’ve expressed your affections to your spouse if you are never verbally or physically attentive and intimate?

I’m advocating giving God the worship that He deserves, both as a lifestyle but also, perhaps more fundamentally, in set apart, focused attention. I believe our intimate worship toward God will inspire and inform our lifestyle.

Part of the beauty of being human is our physicality. By the redemptive work of Jesus, God has given us His Spirit as well, making us “partakers of the divine nature” (2 Pet 1:3,4). Jesus said the Father is seeking worshippers who will (proskuneo) worship Him in Spirit and in truth. Let us be the kind of worshippers with whom the Father looks forward to connecting. When we gather together corporately in worship, may our corporate expression be one of conscious, undistracted focus, and love toward our Creator.

I welcome your thoughts and insights below.


11 comments on “How Worship is Not a Lifestyle

  1. Alyce Kelsey says:

    I agree with you that people seem to conflate worship with communion with God and that it ought to be something special and set aside. In addition, worship is also used to replace “service” as in “Join us for worship Sunday at 10.” Of course, worship should most definitely be a part of that service, but, as you said, not everything that takes place in that hour is worship. Worship leaders, as I understand it, have a role in leading people in worship, primarily through singing, but too often, I think, it looks and feels like a band with a lead singer and we are the audience. Of course, there are some worship leaders who are skilled at directing the focus toward God and leading us by example.
    One final random thought…years ago, I accompanied the students in our church’s Confirmation Class (around age 12, they spend several months investigating matters of faith, what our church believes, and what other religious traditions believe, and make a decision to affirm their faith by joining the church or not) on a visit to services at a Jewish synagogue. I took my young daughter with me and I remember how taken she was with the service. The chairs were arranged in concentric rings inside a circular space and there was so much activity–singing, dancing, laughing, reading/reciting Scripture, praising, raising of hands, clapping, etc. I don’t know if my daughter understood that the object of all that was God or not, but it was definitely a different experience for me as the entire community gathered there joined in praise, adoration, and worship of our God.

  2. Rod Lampard says:

    Correct. 🙂 = “I contend that these writers are conflating “worship” and “communion with God.” #thumbsupmate

  3. John Toner says:

    Scott, I’m rarely on Facebook, saw your post there linking to here, and … glad I’m here.

    You and Mollie have DEFINITELY given this topic a LOT more thought than me. Still, here’s my 2 cents (pretty much 98% stolen from Tim Keller).

    (By the way, I don’t think my thoughts below contradict what you’re saying. Perhaps they simply say it from a different angle?)

    I believe…

    – That “worth-ship” is the root word for the English word “worship”. Whatever we believe will GIVE US value/worth, we OFFER value/worth to in return. That is, literally, what worship is.

    – Our hearts are prone to “worship” the wrong things… money, sex, power, “success” – anything and everything that we (falsely) believe will give us “worth” that isn’t God.

    – The goal of true worship, then, is to give our hearts a Copernican Revolution. To train our hearts to stop revolving around false idols and return to a God-centric orbit.

    Psalm 50:15 is a favorite “worship” verse for me:

    “[C]all on me in the day of trouble; I will rescue you, and you will honor me.”

    Wha?! Not singing, or hands raised? We “honor” God by screwing up, getting ourselves into troubl and then call out to him for RESCUE? That’s how we “honor” him?!

    Apparently so.

    So, for me, I believe that when worship is “good” or “proper” or “the-kind-God-really-wants”, it is when we praise Him for being the one – the only one – who truly gives value to us by choosing us, saving us, “rescuing” us.

    Hope I’m at least slightly helpful.

    LOVE YOU my brother. JOHN

    • John! So good to hear from you.
      My wife pointed out to me that you’re actually on Facebook a lot; you just might not be aware of it. (Usually you appear with pics of your grandkids, posted by your wife).

      I do agree that being aware of the “worth-ship” origin of the word is helpful in understanding the English word we use today. Good thoughts. Tim Keller is the man.

  4. dbminc1 says:

    Scott – What a concept: to search diligently what the scriptures say about worship – and to adjust our lives and subjective opinions of worship to the true scriptural narrative. The church, ie its members – the body of Christ – must be cautious to the redefining of words that are unique to its identity, and then base our identifiers on what we think something is or should be. Ultimately, as beneficial as the “worship industry” (now worth $1.5 billion) has been in providing resources to the church, the church must be cautious in guarding its heart and its sacred nomenclature, not to get lost in cultural subjectivity – or worse, in a money machine.
    Good post! (Reminds me of chapter 1 of my book!) Danny Byram

  5. Thank you for sharing your thoughts Danny.

    It is very difficult to see outside of one’s own frame of reference, especially when we like our own frame of reference. I think it was brilliant on God’s part to give us objective, written revelation that is from outside of our selves, our time, and our culture. I’m certain we all still get lots of stuff wrong, but if we take care, at least we have a fighting chance of experiencing the “unity of the Spirit in the bond of shalom” through the “one God and Father of all who is over all and through all and in all” (Eph 4:3,6).

    For those looking in who may be interested in further reading, Danny has recently released a book, “Wallpaper Worship: Why Church Music Sounds Better, Fewer Are Singing, and What To Do About It.” I had intended to reference his book above, but my post was already too long. More info here:

  6. Ronnie Barnes says:

    Thanks, Scott. I don’t think you’re nitpicking but rather you’re letting Scripture speak for itself. The sentence that particularly struck me was: “Could our belief that ‘everything we do is worship’ conveniently be keeping us from actual worship?” That’s worth pondering some more.

  7. I think the distinction you make between worship and service is very well made and serves to buttress your point. You offered a well argued case and I’m certainly pursuaded… Though I still don’t know if singing songs out loud to the Lord as one mows his lawn isn’t worship. 😉

    • I appreciate your frankness, Frank.
      In my opinion, if you’re singing songs to our Creator while mowing the lawn, then you are indeed worshiping…as you are doing a chore that needs to be done. But your attention is necessarily divided. I’m simply advocating (also) that we focus our intimate attention on God as well at some point, and also corporately.

      I find the idea of “worship as romance” (see link in post) helpful in answering the question you raise. Yes, I can run errands or do chores with my wife and that’s certainly worth something. But if we never go on a date, or spend intimate time together, then I’m not going to have a very good marriage. In the case of my wife, I will hear about it.

  8. David Michael Boyd says:

    It’s good to ponder what Jesus was saying when he stated that the Father is seeking worshippers – those who will worship in Spirit (or spirit?) and truth. Much has been said trying to clarify this statement. Jesus goes on to make the point that it isn’t the location that makes worship what the Father is seeking. So you hint at a problem that we may be experiencing in American church worship. Focus on the external expression – include here the building, the music style, the liturgy, the song choices – all lead us in the wrong direction. I have seen two end results. 1. To make those externals (OUR expression fo worship, which is obviously the RIGHT one) holy and elevate them to an inordinately high level. This is when the church begins to become culturally out of touch and will not adapt to change. It is to confuse drinking milk with chewing on the milk carton it was delivered in. 2. To come to a place where that expression is becoming commonplace. I think a sort of boredom sets in when you have the same format week after week after year after year. Then in order to keep the excitement up, sometimes we resort to more spectacular presentations: the light show, the fog, that amazing sound system (where you can add prepared tracks to the live band so it sounds amazing!) But then we get bored with that and what’s next? This is a cultural malady that we are all impacted by.

    Perhaps to talk about singing songs as worship on equal standing with daily chores is sort of an excuse to make us feel better. We didn’t feel any special intimacy singing songs and watching the band, it was kind of the same as washing the car. Hey, don’t get worried – this is normal!!!

    I think you are saying, no, that is not normal. It isn’t worship in Spirit and in truth. And I agree. As a musician who is involved in worship leading this has been a constant challenge. To continue to seek a real connection with God while playing my instrument and leading others in worship, hopefully getting that spark of prophetic inspiration that puts a revelation of who Jesus before the church. When we get that – it isn’t boring anymore!!!

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